Apparently ‘tis the season for breakups. Recently, several of my friends/associates having ending things with their significant others for various reasons. I’m talking chunky relationships, 3-5 years, out the window. It brought about some interesting conversations about starting over and being single again. Over the past few months, I have reconnected with an old friend from college, and she was telling me about her breakup. Essentially, her now ex-boyfriend told her that he didn’t see himself marrying her. Talk about harsh. In case guys don’t know, if a girl wifes you up, she’s thinking long term. Marriage and kids, house with a picket fence, matching sweatsuits, all that. To invest more than a year into someone, is real. The majority of us want to be in relationships for the long term, we don’t start something new because we think it will end.
The Advice: ‘I Am Readdddy For Looovee’….Have a Seat, You’re Not.
Lately, I’ve been realizing something about us girls. I have realized that we inadvertently sabotage each other and our potential relationships by giving bad advice. What do I mean….let me explain. It’s funny that the people in your life that are supposed to support you, are the same ones that will criticize you for decisions that you have make in your life. As girls, we oftentimes make the mistake of telling our girlfriends a little too much about our new mancandy. Of course, you know, you’re excited. He seems to have it together, he’s cute, things are progressing well… until they’re not.
The Advice: The Truth About Forgiveness
“There are certain people who are meant to remain in your past. I made a mistake trying to repurpose you.” – Hannah,Girls
I used to think I was good at letting things go. I had always thought that I was a forgiving person, and that people took advantage of that. I had a wonderful revelation today, and I attribute this to having a rather insightful conversation with my best friend about the past year or so about our friendship. Over the course of the conversation, I realized that although our friendship had changed, she was still the same person. She had forgiven me for the way I had treated her because our friendship was evolving into something new and foreign, and yet I had not forgiven her for hurting my feelings. It dawned on me, that I kept saying out loud for months that I was over it, but internally I was holding on to hurt feelings. It wasn’t helping me, it was actually stunting my growth. I was so quick to stay angry, instead of embracing that change was happening, the friendship was changing, and that it didn’t necessarily mean the end. In fact, it may mean a new level of understanding between us.
The Advice: Girls F*ck Up, Too.
It’s August in case you guys didn’t know. That’s fuckin’ crazy how fast time is going…how fast life is going. I was thinking about the last two summers.. and in both instances, there has been significant life events that have changed my way of thinking drastically. I’m about to go ham right now, because I don’t give a damn about exposing myself to you people. You still read this, so maybe something I say resonates in some way to you.
