The Advice: Courage in Love

I feel like I write the best when my mind is literally a clusterfuck. So here we are. I’ve been sitting on this idea for a minute, after my last post about fear and love. I’ve been thinking a lot about how to move past fear. I think it’s easy to stay in that state, and it’s important that we talk about how to move away from it. In my last post I discussed how fear stops us from doing the things we want to do. Well, fear can also stop us from doing what we have to do. Whether that is coming to terms with faults within ourselves, being real about where we are at in life, or letting go of bad habits. This can be very scary.

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Sometimes we need to do better. Sometimes, we need to give OURSELVES tough love, because we owe ourselves that much ya know? Real progress starts when you acknowledge that a change needs to be made. Of course when I write on this particular blog, I’m talking more about love, but the same concept applies to all aspects of life. It is important to have a balance in life. We all work, or go to school, pay bills, work out, etc. Sometimes one part of our life overpowers everything else. I know when I was in grad school, my primary focus was graduating and getting a job. I didn’t leave much time for anything else. Now that I’m a real person, I see the important of maintaining myself in all aspects. If we as humans want to grow, we have to pay attention to all areas of life. Work, life, and love; mind, body, spirit. Each needs their own attention.

As single people, it is easy for us, to become impatient. It is easy to allow the fear of falling deter us from spreading love and letting love in. Because you can’t really attain the ideal relationship if your heart is closed. I encourage those in a fearful and fragile state to move through the fear. Choose courage. Take a leap of faith, and honor the steps you take, even they are baby steps. This could be, going on a date, calling a love interest, expressing your feelings. Acknowledge when things are not working, and moving on. Most importantly, acknowledging what you can do to let more love into your life. have you shown love to your body? how are you nurturing your mind, your thoughts? I recently picked up this book, ‘The 5 Love Languages.’ It basically talks about how everyone expressed love in different ways. I’ll read it first, and most likely write my thoughts and shit about it on this here blog. So stay tuned.

I want all of you to remember the importance of re-centering yourself in times of distress, confusion, and despair. Especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Trust that the answer is always in you, and keep moving.

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