May Monthly Archives

The Advice: We Can’t Be Friends

It’s been awhile fam! I’ve been too busy living my life, chasing this money, that I haven’t had any time to get back to this here blog. But here we are fresh from the shower, ready to drop something on ya. Ready?Okay.Now when I first thought about this topic, I wondered how I could convey my feelings and whatnot, about being friends with an ex lover, boyfriend, etc. when I can’t really relate all the way. Then I thought, who gives a damn? So here we go. I don’t feel like everyone should be friends with their exes.

There. I said it. I’ll tell you why.

When you’re invested in something, whether it’s a situationship, an exclusive relationship (i.e. boyfriend/girlfriend), or someone you are dating exclusively, you’re all in. I don’t know about you guys, but I don’t do anything half-assed. If I’m into you, I’m all the way in. I’m a passionate person. I love hard. I FEEL things. So when that feeling goes away…it’s gone. Like, I can’t get it back, I can’t muster up fake enthusiasm to be around you, the fire is out, I’m not friends with any of the guys I’ve dated. Here’s the thing. For me, I feel like if we weren’t friends before, why would we be now? It’s silly to me. Most likely once we’ve separated, I’ve moved on, you’ve moved on. We see other people, and we become invested in them. I can’t look back, because I feel that if you’re really committed to someone, mind, and heart, there’s not really any room for anyone else.

advice_image11Over the past few weeks I’ve been chatting a lot with the homies. I had one girlfriend tell me that she was upset because one of her exes no longer takes her calls or texts, and she didn’t understand why. I thought that was weird. Think about it. He has a new girlfriend, this girlfriend probably wouldn’t like him communicating regularly with an ex, because she probably thinks he may still have feelings for her. Who has time for that? Girls are jealous creatures. I am a jealous creature. I don’t want to share your attention, I want it fully. I’ve seen far too many situations, where both guys and girls have claimed to be ‘just friends’ with their ex, and have ended up back with them, or at least hooking up with them. How does that help you grow and move forward?

I’m not saying this is the case for everyone. I know a few people who are friendly with their exes and there is no problem…..that they know of. In my observation, on the outside things are platonic and friendly..but more often than not one party still has lingering ‘what if’ feelings about the other. You can never say that just because you view them as a friend, they fully view you as the same. As we get older, get married, and have children, the situations will be even more unrealistic. I don’t know any married couples who are still friends with their exes, do you? I’ll wait.

If things end, they end for a reason. Stop trying to recreate a dead relationship. I know that none of the guys I’ve dated were supposed to be with me for the long haul. When they go, I delete them off of Facebook, Instagram, phone book, all that. I don’t want reminders of what once was. Keeping that door open invites the chance that one will relapse, and that may not be the healthiest move for your heart. Call it immature, I call it closure. Besides, no one wants to see their ex moved on and happy if they aren’t in the same place. That sucks.

Memories are just that…memories. Good times, or bad, things begin and end everyday. I take every situation and experience for what it is, and I get ready and open my heart for the new one that is sure to follow. I feel like that’s how it should be.

We can’t be friends. Thanks for the memories though.

Street Style: Urban Fashion

Lets take  a stroll down memory lane. The year is 1997 and  Puff Daddy and Ma$e are hopping around in their green, leather baseball Jerseys in the “Feels So Good” music video. After that video, every street walker had a leather baseball jersey in almost every color.

Lets take it back even further. Before the 90’s hip-hop influence on urban fashion, there was the 80s. How could we forget to acknowledge the dynamic, hip-hop trio Salt-N-Pepa! Salt, Pepa, and DJ Spinderella were known for wearing their African printed hats and jackets, skin tight jumpsuits, gold chains, and knee high leather boots in the 80s.

If you were born close to when Bobby Brown departed from New Edition, you understand how much hip-hop and r&b set the style precedent for “Urban Fashion.

For this post, we decided to feature an individual that embraces urban fashion on a daily basis. UnregisteredStyle would like to introduce an old friend of ours, Nate.

Check out how Nate channels urban fashion in suburban America.

post_man1_042314_03 “The outfit has a little bit of everyone’s style in it.” -Nate

In the past, urban fashion was heavily influenced by brands like Tommy Hilfiger, Polo Ralph Lauren, Calvin Klein, Nautica, and DKNY. Today, most of those brands are still being worn today, but have combined with graphics, prints, and skater trends.

Nate’s urban apparel was inspired by modern hip-hop trends and casual gear. For starters, he is wearing a Nike baseball shirt with red contrasted sleeves. He paired his shirt with dark washed denim jeans from Levis.


“Natural trends repeat themselves. However, a “fresh” pair of Jordans never go out of style.” -Nate

Most twenty something year old guys spend their money on gas, food, and liquor. However, there are always extra funds allocated to a sneaker collection. If you are the guy that has a massive sneaker collection, you own at least ten pairs of Jordans. Not only do you own ten pairs of Jordan’s in every color, they probably have never been taken out of the box.

The shoe collector Nate, never goes out the house without wearing a pair. He never feels complete without a pair of Jordans. He states, “The shoes themselves are classics revisited.”


Head over to Nate’s Instagram @NastyNate1530 and show him some love. Leave some comments below!